Hey Earthlings!
We all have those phrases or quotes or sometimes just words that when we hear them it makes our blood boil and our neck do that funny thing where you kind of go "bleurghuohui". You know what I mean? I've taken a few of them, listed them here and told you exactly why I hate them. Let me know if there's some more you hate.
"There's someone out there worse off than you"
Yes, this may be the case and I hope they come out of their situation feeling all the joys of spring but just because there is someone out there with more issues than you're feeling, it does not mean your experiences and feelings are invalid. If you are trying to comfort someone and make them feel better about their situation in what way is, "ah well don't worry, Tina down the road is way worse off than you are" going to make them feel better? EXACTLY. It won't. End of, let's just entirely blow this phrase away.
"Respect your elders"
By no way am I saying I don't respect my elders, but if someone is rude to me for no reason or whatever then I don't care how old they are but I will lose all respect for them. The younger generation are automatically meant to respect elders and everyone around them but it is perfectly okay for an older person to go "respect is earned, not given", fair enough, but I will also apply this logic. Thank you and goodbye. I also feel as though working in retail has definitely solidified this view for me because people can be very mean for no valid reason.
"You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else"
This is an incredibly toxic view to have towards life and yourself. I preach about self love a lot and how important it is, but I'd be lying if I said I loved myself. There are days when I'm super happy with myself and I'm all "go Lia! you're doing great!" but there are days when I am so horrible to myself it's unreal because of the teeniest tiniest things, but I'm on a journey to believing I'm awesome so I'll deal with it. But on the days where I hate myself that doesn't mean I don't love other people and I don't understand how the two could even correlate. There's nothing I love more than showing kindness to others and making people happy, especially the people closest to me and just because I'm not feeling myself for a day or two it doesn't mean that this love instantly expires and there's a warning light like "heeeey, back up buttercup!" because that does not happen. So spread the love around for everyone.
"All good things come to those who wait"
Incorrect. All good things come to those who get up and work hard for something.
"Your secondary school years will be the best 5 years of your life"
Also very incorrect and if this were the case then I would have definitely given up by now. Why would I want to live my life constantly comparing myself to 11-16 year old Lia? And the drama, oh my gosh the drama that surrounded secondary school...why would I want to constantly think "oh yes love it!". It's far too much energy and a horrible thought.
"Like a girl"
Stop. Just stop. I could write an entire post about these 3 words and it still wouldn't cover why I hate it so much. So, just stop.
"Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt me"
This is a difficult one because now I'm older and I don't really care what people think of me I love this phrase. But when I was about 13, I hated this phrase because the message might be powerful and empowering and encourages you to not care what people say but words do hurt. Words can hurt a hell of a lot. There are times in my younger teenage years where I would rather have had someone throw sticks and stones at me than use the words they were using to describe me etc., because you heal a lot quicker from physical injuries than you do from hurtful comments.
"A good deed dies when it is spoken about"
I'm not for people using their good deeds as a way to gain positive attention and it annoys me. But, by sharing your good deeds with others it can encourage them to perform good deeds which they might not have necessarily thought about so I don't think that's a bad thing. Share away!
Hope you enjoyed this post and I also hope you didn't do the funny neck thing too soon.
Until next time,
Lia x
We all have those phrases or quotes or sometimes just words that when we hear them it makes our blood boil and our neck do that funny thing where you kind of go "bleurghuohui". You know what I mean? I've taken a few of them, listed them here and told you exactly why I hate them. Let me know if there's some more you hate.
"There's someone out there worse off than you"
Yes, this may be the case and I hope they come out of their situation feeling all the joys of spring but just because there is someone out there with more issues than you're feeling, it does not mean your experiences and feelings are invalid. If you are trying to comfort someone and make them feel better about their situation in what way is, "ah well don't worry, Tina down the road is way worse off than you are" going to make them feel better? EXACTLY. It won't. End of, let's just entirely blow this phrase away.
"Respect your elders"
By no way am I saying I don't respect my elders, but if someone is rude to me for no reason or whatever then I don't care how old they are but I will lose all respect for them. The younger generation are automatically meant to respect elders and everyone around them but it is perfectly okay for an older person to go "respect is earned, not given", fair enough, but I will also apply this logic. Thank you and goodbye. I also feel as though working in retail has definitely solidified this view for me because people can be very mean for no valid reason.
"You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else"
This is an incredibly toxic view to have towards life and yourself. I preach about self love a lot and how important it is, but I'd be lying if I said I loved myself. There are days when I'm super happy with myself and I'm all "go Lia! you're doing great!" but there are days when I am so horrible to myself it's unreal because of the teeniest tiniest things, but I'm on a journey to believing I'm awesome so I'll deal with it. But on the days where I hate myself that doesn't mean I don't love other people and I don't understand how the two could even correlate. There's nothing I love more than showing kindness to others and making people happy, especially the people closest to me and just because I'm not feeling myself for a day or two it doesn't mean that this love instantly expires and there's a warning light like "heeeey, back up buttercup!" because that does not happen. So spread the love around for everyone.
"All good things come to those who wait"
Incorrect. All good things come to those who get up and work hard for something.
"Your secondary school years will be the best 5 years of your life"
Also very incorrect and if this were the case then I would have definitely given up by now. Why would I want to live my life constantly comparing myself to 11-16 year old Lia? And the drama, oh my gosh the drama that surrounded secondary school...why would I want to constantly think "oh yes love it!". It's far too much energy and a horrible thought.
"Like a girl"
Stop. Just stop. I could write an entire post about these 3 words and it still wouldn't cover why I hate it so much. So, just stop.
"Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt me"
This is a difficult one because now I'm older and I don't really care what people think of me I love this phrase. But when I was about 13, I hated this phrase because the message might be powerful and empowering and encourages you to not care what people say but words do hurt. Words can hurt a hell of a lot. There are times in my younger teenage years where I would rather have had someone throw sticks and stones at me than use the words they were using to describe me etc., because you heal a lot quicker from physical injuries than you do from hurtful comments.
"A good deed dies when it is spoken about"
I'm not for people using their good deeds as a way to gain positive attention and it annoys me. But, by sharing your good deeds with others it can encourage them to perform good deeds which they might not have necessarily thought about so I don't think that's a bad thing. Share away!
Hope you enjoyed this post and I also hope you didn't do the funny neck thing too soon.
Until next time,
Lia x
This post made me chuckle, Lia, you've picked some cracking phrases that annoy the hell out of me too! Especially, "There's someone out there worse off than you." I DETEST that phrase for the exact same reasons you've outlined. It's not helpful and it's also hugely patronising. And you're absolutely right about things only coming to those who work for them - and sometimes not even then, sadly, haha. Fab post, loved it! X Lisa
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